Growing in the soil of acceptance
March 29th, 2010
“Human beings, like plants, grow in the soil of acceptance, not in the atmosphere of rejection” John Powell.
Troy Dunn, The Locator, has gotten some press lately as a guest on The View, The Today Show, and Dr. Phil. The Troy Dunn series, ‘The Locator’, is about his search to reunite people looking for someone they love. New episodes of The Locator premiere on Saturdays at 9pm EST on the WE Channel.
Troy Dunn, a professional people finder and host of WE TV’s, The Locator recently joined Dr. Phil to share reunion stories. Troy Dunn has written books, made TV and radio appearances, all in an effort to reunite loved ones who have been separated for some reason. And after watching Friday’s episode of Dr. Phil, I realized the reasons for the separations can be so selfish and sadly, so damaging and the rejection – heartbreaking. I watched the show expecting it to be about reunions between siblings. I expected to cry a little, laugh a little and enjoy some fairy tale endings. I expected to hear some new information on a topic I find interesting, which is the genetic and biological connection we have with our siblings. But instead, I watched a heart breaking episode filled with the renewed realization of how devastating rejection can be.
In preparation for writing this article, I watched the episode again this morning. And what struck me the most was the impact – the lifelong impact – that rejection has on someone. Unless you live a charmed life, you have experienced some sort of rejection. As hurtful as any rejection is, the worst kind would have to be the rejection that a child feels who has been abandoned by a family member, especially a parent.
My heart broke as I listened to Troy Dunn read a letter to a daughter whose mother was found by Troy Dunn. As he read the letter, a letter written by the mother and filled with self-centered crap, you could see the daughter’s eyes cloud with tears. As the daughter carefully listened to her mother’s words, her hope for acceptance was washed away by the reality of rejection. And sadly, no matter what reason that mother gives, nothing will lessen the pain or minimize the unfounded blame that daughter has put on herself. Way to go “Mom”…
Deb
